Let's Celebrate Mardi Bras!

Check out how we are celebrating Mardi Bras HERE!

If you are in need of assistance please call our 24 hour hotline at 757-485-3384.

Domestic Violence - What can you do to help break the cycle?

Domestic violence impacts millions of people each year.  It impacts men, women, and children.  It affects those of all sexual orientations, all races and all socio-economic statuses.  It CAN be prevented.  It requires the collective voice and power of all individuals, families and institutions.  Each of whom adds a valuable and powerful component to transforming our communities because EVERYONE deserves a safe place to live!

What can you do?

  • Talk to loved ones about violence and oppression
  • Create a culture of consent in your home.
  • Speak out when you notice micro agressions
  • Use social media to raise awareness amongst your peers.
  • Host a "Lunch and Learn" at your office or an informational meeting at your church or organization.  Ask for the HER Shelter to come out and speak.
  • Tell someone they matter
  • Hold loved ones accountable if they tell a racist/sexist joke
  • Volunteer at the HER Shelter
  • Participate in an event hosted by the HER Shelter
  • SHARE, SHARE, SHARE HER Shelter contact info if you are concerned about someone.

Collective actions by single people are critical to the story of our movement.  While each may be unique and personal, when woven together they create a strong foundation for the world we imagine.  When we put our thoughts into action, they become concrete steps on the pathway to social change.  Building that pathway is an investment we make TOGETHER!

If you would like to make a gift to support the mission of the HER Shelter, it is easy.  Text HERSHELTER to 269-89

  • We Now Can Accept your Vehicle Donation!!

Thanks to our partnership with Vehicles for Charity, we are able to accept your car, boat, or RV as a donation to the H.E.R Shelter.  Click here for more information.

We Are on the Front Line, Please Help!

The HER Shelter needs your help!  We are in unprecedented times.  The Coronavirus has changed how we must serve our clients and how quickly our clients can find sustainable employment and housing.  We are having most meetings with clients via phone.  We have worked with our clients to understand proper cleaning and sanitizing their living space.  We are expecting our clients to stay in shelter longer because it will be harder to find a job and affordable housing.  We are anticipating we made need to place some clients in hotels and that is VERY EXPENSIVE.  Regardless of how we serve our clients, the cold reality is that domestic violence does not decrease but increases during times like this. 

The stress from the uncertainty of loss of income, food scarcity, and illness leads to incidents of domestic violence especially for families who are living in tumultuous situations.  Abusers have more access to their victims because everyone is home together.  We are currently not able to accept donations that offset some of our expenses.  Add all of that to the fact that we had to cancel our largest fundraiser, the 2020 Gala, we, the HER Shelter is in of help.  We NEED your help!  Please consider making a donation.  Even a small donation combined with other small donations really adds up!  Women and children who are fleeing domestic violence in our community rely solely on the HER Shelter.  We want to ensure we have resources during this difficult time.  If you are able to help, please click the "Make A Donation" button and give as you are able.  Thank you for making a difference!  Together, we can save lives everyday.

Corona Virus Update

The H.E.R Shelter is considered an essential service to our community.  As such, we remain open.  While we are open, we have adjusted how we deliver services during this time of social distancing. 

  • Our hotline is functioning 24/7 to help those experiencing domestic violence, sexual assault, or human trafficking
  • The beds in our shelter will be reserved for those in imminent danger.
  • We will meet with in shelter clients as well as community clients via phone meetings as much as possible.
  • Transportation services will be modified for non-essential travel. 
  • Our children's team will be developing packages of activities for children who are not currently in school.

If you are in need of assistance with finding childcare:

Childcare Away toll-free Parent Referral line- 1-866-KIDS-TLC or email ksharal@va.childcareaware.org and one of their Referral specialists will assist parents in locating alternative child care options

If you are in need of other non-medical services during the pandemic, the United Way of South Hampton Roads has set up a Coronavirus Hotline at 757-858-7777.  Additional resources can also be found at www.unitedwayshr.org/coronavirus/

Help us further our mission!

Thank you for choosing to support the H.E.R Shelter.  While much of our programming is supported through a variety of grants, many innovative projects and niceties of life are not.  We work tirelessly to provide safety, advocacy, leadership, sustainability, and support for survivors of domestic and sexual violence, human trafficking, stalking and homelessness.  Thanks to the support of our community we are able to provide the best possible services to the women and children who are in our shelter.  The H.E.R. Shelter is a registered non-profit organization so your contribution is tax deductible to the fullest extent of the law.

If you would like to make a credit card donation just click on the button below.  If you would like to donate via check please send your donation to H.E.R Shelter

PO Box 2187, Portsmouth VA 23702.

We also accept in-kind donations of household goods, clothes, cleaning products, paper products etc.  We do have limited space to store donations so please contact Summer to confirm we are able to accept your donation.

Thank you for supporting survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault,  stalking and human trafficking.  Together we can make a real difference in the lives of others.


The H.E.R. Shelter is a private, non-profit agency, certified by the United Way of South Hampton Roads, and the statewide coalition: Virginia Sexual and Domestic Violence Action Alliance (VSDVAA). We participate in the Coordinated Crisis Response, a 24-hour emergency hotline where a trained advocate can assist individuals in need of information, referrals, or - when appropriate - can provide safe, emergency housing for a woman and her children. The H.E.R Shelter currently operates three shelter facilities in the cities of Portsmouth and Chesapeake, Virginia.